DAY 72: the good wife´s guide


 
























I´m in love with the 50´s. And I´ve been for quite a while, so I decided to live a day in the footsteps of the woman I´ve come to admire lately.  Todays project within the project;  I am to live life like they did it back in the 50´s for a day- following the good wife´s guide! I´m sure my man will find it pretty interesting. Now, I´m not saying that I agree with the rules and guidelines of the book, or that I even find it appealing that mens thoughts and every need were to be waited upon. I am indeed quite happy, normally living my life in a time and in a culture where woman and men are considerd equal- and where we have the same rights and opportunities in life.  But, for some reason, I find it charming too; the way they lived life in the 50´s. In some ways it just seemed easier. Men were gentlemen, and woman allways pretty and lovely in their beautiful dresses(...) most woman were stay at home mothers, and at least in my mind, they enjoyd it; cleaning and making their homes presenteble and warm. I know that I am romanticizing it all, the way they lived life back then. And I also know that for some woman, actually- probably for a lot of my sisters out there across the globe, life as a mother and a wife hasn´t necessarily changed much since this book first came out. Keeping that in mind, I will do my very best to enjoy this day spent in the spirit of the 50´s. Here we go, obviously no time to loose

The good wife´s guide of 1955:
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation is more important than yours-  Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax. Your goal: To try and make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Don’t greet him with complaints and problems. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place

3 comments:

  1. So...how was it?? Did he appreciate your attempt at being a good wife from the 50s????

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  2. Can I tell you how hard I laughed while reading this post? OH MY GOSH! Don't show this to my husband! :)

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  3. I also find that there is something charming about the 50's... I've read these "guidelines" before, but had forgotten about them... so funny and interesting!

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